Father’s Day is right around the corner — when paternal figures are honored and celebrated.
“We’ve previously had a similar survey about mom-shaming, so we wanted to provide a balance with men,” said Clark.
Of the fathers who reported being criticized about their parenting, 67% of received criticism about discipline, 43% about diet and nutrition, 32% about paying too little attention to their children and 32% for being too rough.
The University of Michigan survey indicates that 1 in 5 men are less motivated to remain involved with parenting duties when they receive harsh criticism. The survey also found that 40% of the criticism fathers receive is from their co-parent, with 25% from a grandparent.
Clark emphasizes that when a father received regular criticism from his spouse, he was nine times more likely to want to be less involved: “People close to you often understand you the best, and when they relay negative feedback, if often pushes fathers away. Their confidence in parenting is lost and they often are less involved because they may feel like they are not a good enough parent.
While the Michigan survey found that 90% of fathers are confident as parents, many felt that adults in positions of power didn’t respect their parental role — 11% have felt that a teacher assumed they were not knowledgeable about their child‘s ne or behavior, and 12% have felt that a doctor or nurse assumed they were not knowledgeable about their child‘s health. Nearly one-quarter of fathers have felt excluded from communication about their child‘s activities.
Dominique Teasley of Alexandria, Louisiana, is a father of four biological children and two step children ranging in ages from 5 to 17. He told ABC News that when he receives criticism about his parenting, it is most often about disciplining his children, and like many fathers in the Michigan poll, he said he receives the most parental feedback from the people closest to him.
“Many people think that I’m less strict towards my daughters compared to my sons,” he said. “I have a soft spot in my heart for my baby girl, but, I offer my sons plenty of emotional support and compassion.
One of the more positive results from the poll is that more than half of fathers indicated that they are receptive to parenting feedback, and as a result they often seek out additional resources to improve their parenting.
And that can lead to a happy Father’s Day for us all.